IF YOU CAN’T SAY ANYTHING NICE, DON’T SAY ANYTHING

This old adage does not mean that we cannot stand up for ourselves, or state our opinions.

What it does mean, is that our voice and tone should not sound shrill, harsh, sharp or jarring. We should attempt not to screech, scream, roar, holler or express expletives when speaking.

Our communication skills should be developed so that control and awareness of how we sound to others and to become conscious enough to see the non-verbal reactions of the ones being spoken to.

Once spoken, what we say and how we say it, can never be taken back. The words and tone used can have a devastating or an uplifting effect. It is all in one’s delivery. Our speech should not be sarcastic, or demeaning. We can still sound firm in a kindly manner.

We should be able to say anything to anybody, especially when dealing with personalities that may have phobia’s and insecurities, in the same tone of voice for example that we ask “please pass the salt.”  There is no judgement or assessment just stating a request.

With a voice tone of gentleness and kindness initiates more attention to what is being said, rather than have individuals you are trying to make a point with, react negatively then becoming un-co-operative by putting their back up due to an accusing or blaming tone of voice.

It is not easy task, but a level of personal development to be practiced daily. Some days, successful, and other days not so, but we keep working at it.

Old fashioned manners required that one of class, always spoke softly and politely, treating everyone that came into their space with dignity and respect.

The world would be such a better place if we could just practice being kind and polite.

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COVER YOUR HEAD

Hats are the evolvement of warrior helmets, and hat etiquette was established by nonverbal communication. Helmets, now hats, were removed as a sign of courtesy and friendship, not battle.

The lifting or tipping of the hat is similar to a salute or acknowledgement of friendship and respect.

Europe at one time was very unsanitary; (coal dust) therefore, the donning of a hat or bonnet helped keep the dust off. No one during that era ventured outside without a head covering.

If one wants to cover their head, there are many styles of hats to choose from. The baseball hat and or the “toque” have become almost compulsory. A statement of fashion?

Baseball hats were designed for baseball players, to shield their eyes from the glare of sunshine. We find them everywhere, advertising everything from sports to any form of business political rallies; they can be fun in a form of support for one’s cause.

Now they appear at church, at weddings, fine dining establishments, literally everywhere. Personally, they are not my favourite headdress and have found very few people that look really good in a baseball hat. Most of the hats fit too large coming down to close to the ears which is not the best look for a lot of men. The rim is rather large, not like the smaller “cricket hat” that is more form fitting to the scalp…

Baseball hats seem to have added benefits besides shade for the eyes; it keeps hair out of the face when in need of a haircut. It can be worn backward with the rim protecting one from sunstroke. The hat can also be worn sideways to be cute and worn on a bad hair days. Without a doubt they can be handy.

Headgear, worn by men, not just baseball hats, should be removed when indoors, and at the singing of the national anthem and where old fashioned manners are concerned, removed or tipping of the hat when in the presence of the female gender, but now I go too far.

An acknowledgement of appreciation that baseball players to this day, still remove their hats during the national anthem and still lift their hats, when responding to the the fans as a form of courtesy and respect.

I tip my hat to those of you who remember “hat etiquette”.

Why Social Skills?

Interaction with other people is the key part of our society. We need to be able to smile and say hello to all we meet, make small talk with our neighbours, teachers and peers.